Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Where friendships go to die

I was a huge Will & Grace fan. I thought the cast was phenomenal, the episodes, funny and when the series came to an end, I was heartbroken and disappointed with how the last show played out.

See, one of the things I loved about this show was the strong friendship between the four main characters, specifically Will & Grace. So you can imagine how I felt when I watched the final episode to learn that this friendship would eventually fade away. I was stunned. In my own little naive world, I truly believe that real friendships stood the test of time, often in a way that other relationships in life do not.

I remember discussing this with a couple of male friends at the time and both had a pretty casual concept of friendship - you know, here today, gone tomorrow... Whatever. Both looked at me like I was from another planet when I suggested that real friendships were an important part of life and should be nurtured, respected and taken very seriously. To them it was simply easy come, easy go. Moving' on. NEXT!

So it shouldn't have been a surprise to me when one of these two guys ended our friendship years later. No call. No email. No warning. We are talking, just ignoring all my emails and cowardly unfriending me on Facebook. Hey - I'm not going to lie, I've unfriended people as well, but usually this was because I didn't feel that these people had a genuine interest in me or my life - not people I have known for years and had once considered one of my closest friends.

Interesting enough, the breakdown in our communication happened around the same time that he found a new girlfriend. It's ironic how many people arrogantly insist that they will 'never be' the person who ditches their friends because of a new romantic relationship, yet go on to do just that without even batting an eyelash. It's unfortunate that we live in a world where relationships are on such shaky grounds that insecurities prevail and dominate one's life, yet it happens on a regular basis. Although this is something I would expect of a twenty-something: not a forty-something, but hey, what do I know?

Perhaps, like Will & Grace, some friendships only last so long. Life is about growing and evolving into a better person and the people we find beside us on that path, are probably those who will encourage and lift us up when we need them. And when life gets tough, wouldn't you rather have strong, positive people in your life rather than those who simply slink away in the night?

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