Celebrity news was not the sensationalized rating game fueled by slimy paparazzi trying to make a quick buck. Not to suggest there was never any earth shattering celeb news back in the day, but it wasn't quite as insane as it appears to be now.
Politicians probably attacked one another, but it wasn't covered by 24-hour news channels that were competing to keep their ratings up. If there was an attack, I doubt it was as petty and ridiculous as most of the ones we see on the news and online today.
So, am I suggesting that television is the root of all evil? Am I saying that it is to blame for people personally attacking one another?
Of course not.
What I am saying is that we now live in a world where attacking one another is just the norm. People are angry and are sometimes looking for the first person who disagrees with them, in order to fly off the handle. That's why we have road rage. That's why parents are screaming horrific things at their children's hockey games. That's why people go to Black Friday sales and tear each others arms off in order to save ten bucks on a box of Lego.
Currently, I have no car. I live in a rural area where people are pretty laid back and relaxed. Realistically, I shouldn't be dealing with pretentious assholes who are attacking me personally at this time. But you know what, I am. And it's mostly online.
On two occasions in the past month, I have posted my opinion on a site. One was Huffington Post and the other was a group on Linkedin. Neither was attacking, but merely stating my opinion (which I worded very carefully in order to be clear on the fact that it was my opinion and nothing more) and in both cases, I was personally and viciously attacked by a stranger for my opinion. You would think that I suggested something radical and evil like killing babies, but in both cases, it was me doing what I always do, which is attempting to look at the other (often, less popular) side of things. As it turns out, that was a reason to be attacked by some random assholes.
In both cases, I removed myself from the group/site simply because I didn't think that it was worth it to be attacked over an opinion. It just frustrated me and I would have this knee-jerk reaction to jump on and counter or 'react' to the comment, rather than just say 'Fuck it' and move on. It wasn't worth it.
My point is that if I am being personally attacked by complete strangers online for some pretty uncontroversial comments, what does that say about our world? And why should teenagers (who grow up in environments where adults are attacking one another online, on television, in the news and celebrities are ripping each other apart on Twitter) be any different? How can we tell teenagers that it is wrong to bully when we (as a society) are doing the exact same thing
If I am online is ripping apart what Kim Kardashian is wearing (or not wearing) or spreading malicious gossip about someone in my neighborhood, who am I to
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And the next time you are with someone who makes malicious remarks about someone else, maybe you should call them for what they are - a bully.